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6 weird and wonderful Dutch wedding traditions

6 weird and wonderful Dutch wedding traditions

It’s supposed to be one of the best days of your life, but anyone who’s gotten married knows how much work goes into planning and executing the perfect wedding. Not only are you and your significant other required to manage the needs and expectations of relatives and friends, but you’ve also got to figure out what it is you’d like to do for the big day. 

Balancing your own preferences and various family and cultural traditions can be tricky, but in the end it'll (hopefully!) all be worth it as you walk down the aisle surrounded by loved ones and you commit to spending the rest of your life with the person you love.

Regardless of whether you’re looking to go all-out with a big Disney-style wedding ceremony, or want to keep it low key with just a handful of guests, why not sprinkle a little bit of Dutch culture into your big day by incorporating some of these weird and wonderful Dutch wedding traditions!

1. Celebrate the happy couple with fruit cake

Starting off with a simple but vital tradition: the wedding cake. Nowadays, the options couples face when selecting their wedding cake are pretty endless - that’s if they even decide to go with cake, as cupcakes, doughnuts, and even savoury baked goods now proving to be increasingly popular alternatives. 

If you do want to stick with cake, though, one Dutch element you could incorporate into your wedding day is to go with a fruit cake instead of a more contemporary option like red velvet, chocolate or lemon. Before the 18th century - and before international traditions started to influence the Dutch wedding industry - couples in the Netherlands would opt for a fruit cake on their wedding day. They might not be as popular an option nowadays, but they’re still a classic beloved by many.

2. Surprise: Speeches at weddings in the Netherlands

Speeches are a key element of wedding ceremonies and receptions around the world, but in the Netherlands, this tradition can go one step further. Of course, there are all the obvious options, such as the speeches given by the fathers of the bride(s) or groom(s), but other guests or members of the wedding party could also choose to recite a poem, share a memory, or even perform an act or piece of music in honour of the happy couple. 

3. Church wedding? You'll have to get married twice!

One key aspect of getting married in the Netherlands is that, if you and your partner would like to have a religious ceremony, you’ll be required to actually have two weddings, as you’ll have to get married in a civil ceremony in order for your marriage to be officially recognised by the state. 

While this may not strictly be a Dutch tradition - if you want a religious ceremony, you won’t be given much choice in the matter! - it’s certainly an aspect of getting married that’s pretty unique to the Netherlands.

4. Include small tributes to missing loved ones

When celebrating any major milestone in life - whether it be getting a job, getting married or having a baby - most would hope to share these special moments with their nearest and dearest. Sadly, some of the most important people in someone’s life might not always be able to be there to share these moments - luckily the Dutch have a tradition that allows for those who are missing to also feature on the big day.

Many people in the Netherlands will include small touches, such as a photo at the altar, a lit candle, or a deliberately empty chair, as a way of keeping the deceased in their minds and hearts on their wedding day.

5. Have a bruidsstoet, or bridal procession

This isn’t a very common tradition anymore, but it might still be a fun one to include on your wedding day. Traditionally, after a groom picks up his bride from her family’s house, the couple and close relatives then travel to the wedding venue in a bridal procession.

Leading the way are the bride and groom in the first car, followed by the parents of the happy couple in the second car, and the witnesses and their partners in the third car. Finally, any siblings and grandparents are in the fourth car, followed by the remaining wedding guests in their own vehicles.

If you want to go really Dutch, you could always swap out the cars for bikes!

6. Ceremoniemeesters: The Dutch Best Man or Maid of Honour

Of course, many Dutch weddings have been greatly influenced by American and British customs, and so these days you might see a Maid of Honour or Best Man at a Dutch wedding, but traditionally these roles are slightly different. Under the title of ceremoniemeester, friends of the soon-to-be newlyweds help plan the wedding (and the bachelor or bachelorette parties), and will be in charge of ensuring things run smoothly on the big day.

Victoria Séveno

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Victoria Séveno

Victoria grew up in Amsterdam, before moving to the UK to study English and Related Literature at the University of York and completing her NCTJ course at the Press Association...

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