How to meet new people in the Netherlands
It may seem like a silly topic to talk about - you can meet new people everywhere! - but in reality, it’s a little harder than it seems. If you are working nine to five, you can find yourself too strapped for time between your job and getting enough sleep for meeting new people. Here are some tips which will hopefully get you out there making new friends in no time!
1. Join a club
When a lot of my friends left the city where we had studied for new adventures and jobs elsewhere, I felt the need to make new friends and meet new people. I already had a job, so I fell into a kind of limbo; I didn’t have “the student life” anymore, but I still lived in that same city.
So, I asked myself "How can I best meet a bunch of new people?" I decided to join a rowing club and it is the best decision I have ever made! Not only did it allow me to work on my fitness, but, as I had chosen a team sport, I soon had a group of friends to hang out with both in and outside of the club. It sounds cliché, but I really met friends for life at my sports club!
Now, you don’t have to be sporty. You could also join a comedy club, cooking club, reading club - it doesn’t matter! Whatever interests you, go for it! It’s truly a great way to meet new people, and as a bonus, you know they share (at least) one interest with you, so you already have a conversation starter.
2. Go out and network
I’m not suggesting you go out and drink every night - that would be bad for your health - but occasionally going out to a bar with colleagues, if you have that kind of rapport, might be a good idea, especially if they are inviting some of their other friends.
That would then be a good opportunity to network and grow your own group of friends. Don’t be afraid to make plans with these new people and exchange numbers, you may just find that you gain some very good friends out of this.
3. Take Dutch lessons
Learning Dutch will not only enable you to be able to chat to the locals - also a great way to connect - but it will also mean you get in contact with people in the same boat as you: new expats or others who have been here a while, but all new to Dutch.
Arrange to practise your Dutch by ordering drinks or a snack on a terrace and then just let the conversation flow. You never know, you may learn some awesome things about your classmates and decide to stay in touch after the course is over!
4. Do some charity work
You might not want to spend your evening or weekend doing more work, but charity work can feel refreshing and gives you a sense of satisfaction; you were able to help someone. It also allows you to meet people from all walks of life, not just the people you would normally associate with.
Charity work is something that will definitely give you a sense of gratitude for what you have, and you will interact with the other people helping out, and, depending on the type of charity work you choose, the people you are helping.
5. Talk to that person on the train
Nowadays, we tend to plug our earphones in and switch off or scroll endlessly through social media when we are on public transport. But what use is all that social media, if we have forgotten how to actually be social? The next time you are on the train, bus or metro, why not try and talk to the person sat right next to you!
It’s your choice, of course; gauge the situation first and don’t begin a conversation if the person is sleeping, etc. We, as humans, need interaction; it makes us feel happy, so take the time to smile and start talking.
The Netherlands, as you may have noticed, often has delays on trains, or buses to replace certain routes. Take advantage of the bad situation and look for a silver lining. Instead of complaining, take this chance to start talking to the person next to you. This happened to me the other day and I gained an acquaintance out of it!
It’s also just nice to have a conversation with someone you don’t know, and you never know, maybe they are lonely and also needed to talk to someone, even if it is just about the weather. You can literally meet people everywhere, you just have to be open to it and overcome your fear of awkwardness. It won’t ever be as bad as you think. And even if it is, at least you have a funny story to tell!
Of course, there are many other ways to meet people in the Netherlands. What would you suggest? Let us know in the comments below!