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Marjet Groenleer
Marjet Groenleer is an attorney-at-law and associate partner at GMW lawyers in The Hague. Her focus is on (international) divorces, in particular the financial aspects thereof. She is a member of the Association of Family Lawyers and Divorce Mediators (vFAS) and a deputy judge at the Courts of Appeal Amsterdam, family law section. Marjet assists many expats with their divorce, and specialises in finalising financially complex matters with different jurisdictions. You can contact her for (international) divorces (including expats and entrepreneurs), the financial aspects of divorce, settlement of a prenuptial agreement, division of community property, alimony, child abduction proceedings, relocation, parenting plan and mediation.Read more

Spousal alimony: when the ex moves in with the new partner

Paid partnership
Dec 12, 2012
Paid partnership

Alimony
Article 160 of the Dutch Civil Code, Book I, states that the duty to pay spousal alimony for the average duration of 12 years ends:

› should the ex re-marry
› should the ex live with a new partner, under the covenant of a registered partnership
› should the ex live with a new partner, as if they were married or as if they had signed a registered partnership

The first two scenarios are clear and so is the third one, as long as the ex-spouse admits living in a new relationship, as meant by article 160. However, things can get messy if the new relationship is denied by the receiving ex-spouse for the sake of continuing alimony payments.

This is why it is essential that ex-spouses-to-be make sound agreements on the circumstances that may prematurely end spousal alimony payments. Doing so will not only prevent potential conflict-material from unfolding in an already tense situation, but it can actually bring advantages to both parties.

Score a win - win
A possible agreement between divorcing spouses could be that alimony payments go on for the duration of six months after the receiving spouse has moved in with his or her new partner.

The receiving ex-spouse has the benefit of being able to "test" the new relationship in total openness and honesty, giving it a try without the looming doom of losing the partner alimony, should the ex discover the new relationship.

The paying ex-spouse has the benefit of things having a better chance of working out well, since his or her ex can start a new relationship without the risk of impending financial loss.

Avoid the subject and prepare for pain
If no previous agreements were made, things can get really messy. The receiving ex-spouse may deny living in a new relationship, leaving the burden of proof on the paying ex-spouse.

The lawmaker’s wording of "living together as if they were married" is not straightforward to interpret, since several conditions must apply before a judge could rule in favour of the paying ex-spouse wanting to end his or her alimony obligations.

The receiving ex-spouse must have:

› 1. A long term relationship with the new partner,
› 2. Based on affective attachment,
› 3. Leading to the partners caring and providing for each other’s needs on a regular basis,
› 4. Whilst living together,
› 5. Within a joint household.

How do you credibly prove all of the above ?!

Hiring a private eye?
Some paying ex-spouses consider hiring a detective, to bring evidence of circumstances that might lead to a termination of their payment obligations towards their former spouse.

However, it is rather difficult to prove anything that goes beyond the fact that the two scrutinised parties do have a relationship and that they do "fun things" together. "Caring and providing for each other on a regular basis, within the joint household" is an especially difficult provision to prove.

And, last but not least, a detective can’t  really say a whole lot about the durability of an affective relationship unfolding between the parties under observation.

By Marjet Groenleer